Grief Cycle

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This is what i've been through right now, it is a cycle when someone is filled with sorrow or unhappiness, and a process for that person to heal themself and bring things back to normal. It's been a month since i broke up and yes, i suck at this. Really, badly. I'm not a person who can move on in a short time, i'm not a person who can forget someone quickly. Well the fact is i hate to be a person like this, maybe when i'm with my friends i can forget all of these things but when i'm alone i just become too......fragile. Pathetic. I found these Grief-Cycle thing on this site.

1. Denial
After the initial shock has worn off, the next stage is usually one of classic denial, where they pretend that the news has not been given. They effectively close their eyes to any evidence and pretend that nothing has happened.

2. Anger
The next step after denial is a sudden swing into anger, which often occurs in an explosion of emotion, where the bottled-up feelings of the previous stages are expulsed in a huge outpouring of grief. Whoever is in the way is likely to be blamed. In a company this includes the managers, peers, shareholders customers and suppliers. The phrase 'Why me?' may be repeated in an endless loop in their heads. A part of this anger thus is 'Why not you?', which fuels their anger at the those who are not affected, or perhaps not as seriously so.

3. Bargaining
After the fires of anger have been blow out, the next stage is a desperate round of bargaining, seeking ways to avoid having the bad thing happen. Bargaining is thus a vain expression of hope that the bad news is reversible.

4. Acceptance
The final stage is back to one of stability, where the person is ready and actively involved in moving on to the next phase of their lives, no matter how short. The terminally ill person will be putting their life in order, sorting out wills and helping others to accept the inevitability that then now have countenanced and faced.

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I think i'm in the anger stage right now, anger is dominating much of my feelings, i oftenly feel mad and questions like "how come he could forget everything so fast?", "did he lied about everything he said?", "didn't every things that we've been through together means absolutely nothing for him?", or "how could he done this to me? i trusted him..." is spinning around in my head. But at night, when i'm going off to bed, i remember again how he always makes me laugh, and then that's it. The questions suddenly turned into "isn't there a way for us to get back?" ............see? That's why i hate this part of myself, this fragile part. I'm getting tired of this, erghhh just bring me to the acceptance stage quickly please :'(